Supporting Your Neurodivergent Child: A Guide Based on Research, Fact from Myth

By Johnny Chagoyan – therapist at Rejuvenate

As a parent, it is natural to give extra attention when you notice your child thinking, learning, or behaving in ways that might feel different from others.  Neurodivergence is a term that describes variations in how people’s brains function.  Public concerns and social media has given significant attention to neurodivergence in recent years.  While this attention has increased awareness, it has also led to significant misinformation, particularly by influencers on social media.

What is neurodivergence exactly?

Neurodivergence refers to differences in how an individual’s brain functions, processes information, and how they interact with their environment and the world around them.  It is not a disease, but rather a way to describe naturally occurring variations in human neurobiology.  Below I have listed commonly recognized types of neurodivergent conditions;

• Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
• Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
• Dyslexia, Dyscalculia, and Dysgraphia
• Dyspraxia
• Social Anxiety Disorder
• Tourette Syndrome
• Sensory Processing Deficits

The concept of using terms like “neurotypical” and “neurodivergent” is to recognize and value the differences as a natural variation of human cognition rather than viewing them solely as disorders.  Research insists that neurodivergence in not inherently “bad” or “wrong”.  Instead, it highlights the vast capacities of human thought and experience.  Many neurodivergent individuals display strengths, such as innovative thinking, problem solving skills, and creativity.

Debunking myths about neurodivergence

There is confusion on what characteristics constitute neurodivergence and, in an effort to improve understanding, I have listed a few myths circling around neurodiversity.

1. Myth: Neurodivergence is caused by bad parenting.

Fact: These cognitive differences are not caused by poor parenting but is rooted in genetics, biology, and brain development.  Research shows that condition like autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder are strongly influenced by genetic factors going back several generations.

2. Myth: All neurodivergent individuals are the same.

Fact: Neurodivergence exists on a spectrum.  For example, not all autistic individuals have the same strengths, challenges, or needs.  Each person is unique and their experiences are shaped by individual traits, environment, and support systems.

3. Myth: Neurodivergence must be “fixed”.

Fact: Neurodivergence is not a disease but a difference.  The goal is not to “fix” neurodivergent individuals, but to support them in a way that allows them to thrive while embracing their authentic selves.

4. Myth: Social media influencer are reliable sources of information.

Fact:  While some influencers share personal experiences that can be helpful, not all content is rooted in science.  It is important to rely on peer-reviewed research or consult professionals when seeking advice about neurodivergence.